The stay at home wife used to be a demeaning phrase. Times are a-changin’, women are choosing the head of household and should be envied!
Human nature is predictable in many ways. People always seem to want what they can’t have. In civilizations where food was sparse, being fat was beautiful and desirable. Now that there is an abundance of food, looking as if you aren’t getting enough is “in.” What I have come to understand is that everything old is new again and that the world goes in cycles, which includes things like being a stay at home wife.
In my generation, the word “stay at home wife” was tantamount to calling someone barefoot and pregnant. My mother’s generation was the first to reject the notion that a woman HAD to be a stay at home wife.
But, that is where the confusion lies. Our generation was told we couldn’t stay home because it was belittling and beneath a woman’s intelligence to do nothing but run a household. But how true is that now?
14 reasons stay at home wives are to be envied
Growing up, I was extremely confused by the whole thing. I mean, the whole idea behind feminism was to grant women the RIGHT to be equal, but not the same. It also was a movement to give women opportunities, not to take them away. Feeling cheated, some of us asked, “What if being a stay at home wife is what we want to do?”
So, in a reversal of fortune, what I see is the tide turning. Not only are women allowed to decide for themselves what they want to do with their lives, those who choose to be a stay at home wife are envied. No longer a shameful thing, being a stay at home wife has become not only socially acceptable but admirable.There is nothing wrong with wanting to make your husband your job. After all, he works hard for you, why isn’t it acceptable that you would work just as hard to make a life and a home for him.
Having an arrangement where he brings home the bacon and you fry it up isn’t cliché. In fact, it might be the key to two people getting on better and not being so overstressed, overworked, and unhappy.
#1 She followed her own dreams. A woman who becomes a full-time housewife knows she faces criticism but does it anyway. The reason? Because she follows her dream and decides for herself what she wants to do with her life.
She doesn’t allow other people to pressure, shame, or make her do and be somebody she doesn’t want to be.
#2 She doesn’t have the stress of getting the bills paid. There is nothing worse than opening bill after bill that you don’t have the money to pay. A stay at home wife might be responsible for the household finances, but if there isn’t enough, it is rarely her fault.
An endless stream of money flows to a joint account and she doesn’t have to worry about if it is enough, she just writes the checks.