Relationships in your twenties often become deeper and more intense and more fulfilling than they ever were in your teenage years. But everything also becomes a lot harder. There’s a million different ways to meet someone, all of them right at your fingertips, and figuring out how to maintain a healthy relationship has only gotten more complicated because of it. So to help simplify things a little bit, here are 10 things every twentysomething woman (and beyond) should look for, and work on, in a relationship.
1. Maintain a relationship that’s built on mutual trust.
It’s important that he trusts you. It’s important that he does not question you when you tell him where you were or what you were doing. It’s important that he believes you when you tell him how you are feeling. It’s important that when you tell him you love him, he does not doubt you. But it’s equally important for you to trust him. It’s important for you to be with a guy who you know will be honest with you always. And once you find him, it’s important for you to never question, to never let your insecurities get in the way of the mutual trust and respect that you’ve built with one another.
2. Find someone who is proud of you for your accomplishments, but loves you unconditionally, whether or not you’re successful.
It’s a wonderful feeling – being with someone who encourages you and is proud and supportive of everything that you do. You should feel like they will never be intimidated by the goals or ambitions that you have. But more importantly, you should be with someone who loves you unconditionally. Someone who loves you because of who you are, not what you’ve done. When you find someone who loves you because of who you are, you avoid the terrible misunderstanding of thinking that you need to accomplish something in order to be loved. Being with someone who loves you for who you are provides a safety net for you to land in whenever you fail. Because you know, without a doubt, that they will love you for who you are and what you’re trying to do, not what you’ve done.