How do you speak to your partner?
If you want a happy relationship with your lover, you need to focus more on positive words and reassuring words. At times, when your partner is feeling down *and you know it’s their own fault*, you still need to use words that will make them feel better about themselves. Bite your tongue and save the accusations and the criticisms for another day when your partner isn’t feeling so low.
Here are 5 tips that can help you choose your words better with your partner, no matter what the circumstances are.
#1 Speaking in private. Do you listen to your partner’s views completely before giving your suggestion? Learn to do that. If your partner has a suggestion or wants to do something, avoid contradicting them or saying ‘no’ immediately.
Instead, voice your negative opinions through calm questions so your partner can look at the big picture through your eyes. It’ll help both of you look at the relationship as a team effort instead of a battlefield of opinions and dominant partners.
#2 When others are around. Both of you should learn to be respectful towards each other in front of others. Don’t oppose your partner’s views unless you’re joking. And don’t cut your partner in between a sentence just because you feel they’re not explaining something well. It’ll only make your partner feel low on confidence around you. Join in the conversation, but never overpower your partner.
#3 Compliments. Compliment your partner often, and don’t just restrict it to physical traits. Compliment them about their job, their personality and anything else that you genuinely feel. When your partner believes that you have a high opinion about them, they’d feel more comfortable to reveal their weaker side and ask you for help.
On the other hand, if you constantly criticize your partner, they’ll feel underappreciated and will avoid telling you any of their mistakes because they’d be afraid of being judged negatively by you.