#3 Connect what you’re talking about to the other person. You really have to focus on making connections. People won’t want to keep talking to you if they don’t think the information you have affects them in some way.
That means you have to make them care about what you’re telling them as if it impacts their lives. The best way to do that is to draw a connection from your topic to them. This also means asking questions.
#4 Ask open-ended questions. You can’t just ask any type of question. If they respond with “yes” or “no,” it doesn’t leave you with much to work with. You have to get them talking if you want to learn how to hold a conversation.
The more you get them talking, the more they’ll feel engaged in the conversation. That’ll make it a lot easier for you to keep it going and to actually have a deep discussion.
#5 Be engaged yourself. If you want someone to want to continue talking to you, you have to give them a reason. Being engaged and actually paying attention yourself makes a huge difference. When the person thinks you care about what they have to say, they’ll want to talk more because you’ve made them feel important.
#6 Have some ideas in mind to steer the conversation. You’ll run out of conversation topics if you don’t keep any in mind. That just happens sometimes. Clicking with the person naturally will help alleviate some of this but that doesn’t always happen right away.
So keep a list of different ideas in mind so you can keep the conversation going once it starts to fizzle out. If it gets to that point, you have to work hard to maintain an excited level of discussion so it won’t end completely.