Nothing stings quite like romantic rejection. What about sort of rejection? Here’s how to deal with the dreaded “I like you, but not in a relationship way.”
You’ve been going out for three weeks now, and you just can’t get enough of each other. You click together like no one ever has. You just have a blast when you’re together. You text and call each other non-stop when you’re not. You find yourself growing close to him, and you start to entertain the idea of getting serious with him. That is, until you receive that text: “I like you, but I don’t want a relationship.”
Those words cut deeply, in the most unexpected ways. Why do those words leave you surprised and disappointed? After all, you’ve only been seeing each other for a short time, and you know better than to expect too much too soon just because things are going well.
Deal with it
Before you start being all sad and losing hope in finding your very own Mr. Right, here’s how to deal with someone you like not wanting to be in a relationship with you or *you hope* with anyone.
#1 First of all, find out why. Of course, you couldn’t—and shouldn’t!—ask him. At least, not early on in your “relationship.” However, you should at least have a good idea why he *almost* acts so much like your boyfriend, although he tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
This way, you know what your next move is, and if he is really worth sticking with after all. The reasons why he doesn’t want to be in a relationship may be one or a combination of the following:
-He really doesn’t want a girlfriend.
-He doesn’t want you to be his girlfriend.
-He is waiting on someone else to be his girlfriend. He wants a committed relationship, but you may just be a rebound.
-He is choosing between you and another *or more* to be his girlfriend. He may be playing you and another woman. And holding a contest for who he’ll keep and dump.
-He is working on certain personal issues before he commits.
-He is waiting for you to work on your issues before he commits. He may like you, but there is something about you he hopes will change before he commits.
-He knows you’ll be sticking around even if he doesn’t commit. In this case, he is very confident you will still see him, even if he sees someone else and is not exclusive.