#3 Be willing to go outside the box. Okay, I said it wasn’t all about sex, but it is partially about sex. Sometimes having sex seems like another chore after a long day of arduous work, screaming children, and unappreciative people. Finding out about what your mate fantasizes about and making it come true is like a gift from the gods.
Being kinky may not be your thing, but sometimes being someone a little outside the box and going outside of your comfort zone can be exciting for you both and rekindle that passion that may be missing.
#4 Make time for your partner. Sure you sit down to dinner every night, and you spend time staring at a television screen next to one another. But, many people need more in a relationship. There is a difference between being with each other and spending time together.
If you want to rekindle your marriage, try to find something that is just yours. Pick up a hobby or think of something you used to make time for. Go to flea markets, skeet shoot, or do something really crazy. Making time for your partner means putting them in front of your other obligations and making them a priority.
#5 Put away the cell phone. Is there anything that makes someone feel more insignificant more than playing second fiddle to a phone? I get it, we all get wrapped up when the text message ding alerts us. Like Pavlov’s dogs, we have become conditioned to drop everything when our smartphone tells us someone is interested in us.
The problem is that bringing your cell phone to dinner, to the shower, or even to bed, makes your significant other feel insignificant. Make a no cell phone policy when you are together, at least for an hour or two. You will quickly reconnect without interruption or someone raining on your parade.
#6 Take your spouse on a naked weekend getaway. If you can’t seem to get your clothes off quickly enough to get busy and put them on again because your kids are always at the door, that makes it difficult to rekindle love.
#7 Say things like “I love you.” If you think your spouse just knows that you love them, news flash, they may or may not. The simple three words “I love you” mean more than you know and may be the key for knowing how to rekindle a marriage. Don’t assume you are showing your love; they may actually need to hear you whisper that sweet three-word phrase.
#8 Leave little notes around for them. Remember in grammar school when you would find a secret note from your boyfriend or a secret admirer? Leaving a love note for your partner or a secret love letter makes their heart soar and reminds them about the first time you fell in love.