You can’t do anything wrong in a new romance. But as the love grows, learning how to keep a relationship going strong makes all the difference.
I am just going to say it—relationships are not easy. In fact, a good relationship is about the rarest thing there is. It is very infrequent when I am not out for a girl’s night, and the conversation turns into a bash session about everyone’s significant other. Whether dating or married, learning how to keep a relationship going isn’t always simple.
How to keep your relationship going strong
At the beginning of a relationship, you can’t do anything wrong. You spend every waking moment together. All those little things they do are cute, and even if they aren’t, you look the other way. But, real life creeps in, and things aren’t so cute anymore.
Whether going through a rough patch, loss of passion or conversation, or when you just can’t seem to get off the fight roller coaster, understanding how to keep a relationship going is arduous and takes some self-sacrifice and maturity. If you really want your relationship to last, and you think your mate is worth the effort, these nine secrets keep the magic alive.
#1 Have heavy shoulders. One of the hardest parts about being in a relationship is learning to control your own emotions and having heavy shoulders. As a couple, there will be times when your other half goes through a rough patch. Unfortunately, humans take out their misery on the ones we love most.
If you notice your partner goes through something stressful or overwhelming, don’t absorb the anger they direct your way, rather see it as their way of venting and let it roll off your shoulders.
If they flip out because you left your socks on the floor or send you irate text messages, shrug them off and simply say to both them and yourself, “You don’t mean that, that is your frustration talking.” If you react, it just ends in misery.
Go for a walk, refuse to take it personally, and have heavy shoulders, to shoulder whatever they need to get out of their system. That doesn’t mean you should be a pushover. But, do let them vent and let it go. Wait for them to come to their senses and talk through the real issue.
#2 Do the nice little things. If you are out during the day and see something they might like, pick it up for them. You don’t need a special day or occasion to do something nice.
If you pick up a flower on the way home from work, take an errand off of their list, or prepare their favorite meal, just because, it keeps a positive feeling in your relationship and acts as a reminder that you prioritize them.
It also lets them know you think of them often. Even if it is something as simple as a text message saying, “I love you.” Make an effort EVERYDAY to do at least one simple and significant thing to let them know you care. It doesn’t have to be spectacular. It should come from the heart and be genuine.